Can You Tie The Knot Without A Drama?

The wedding day itself went without a hitch. Mostly.

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Unquestionably, I started the day with an early morning ‘cleansing’ run on my own before the girls and I all indulged in a buffet breakfast, and then… it was on!!

Hair and make-up, hair and make-up, hair and make-up, champagne, hair and make-up, champagne…

…before we knew it half a day had passed and we were ready.

Next minute, the photographer was taking pictures of us all looking and feeling like princesses! It was a seamless morning made all the more special with having my dear friend Amy Perkins @heartfirecollective doing our hair, and Elle from @bespokeface doing our make-up. Both girls knew each other from school and the friendly banter and familiarity really added to a stress-free morning of bubbles and giggles.

Surprisingly we were ready on time! For anyone that knows me well, this is no mean feat! I think it’s a reflection on how easy the morning was, and perhaps the eagerness to let the good times roll on!

It wasn’t until we were packed into the limousine that we all had a surge of nervous waves hit our bellies and we realised we were minutes away from walking down the aisle. Suddenly, I remembered that I hadn’t learnt my vows off by heart and I started to panic internally as a list of things “I could have organised better” went through my brain. Panic increased when we arrived at Mt Coot-tha and my brother, who was to be walking me down the aisle, was nowhere to be found and we were told the photographer had been held up and wasn’t ready for us. As I clumsily made my now slightly concerned self out of the limo my dress then caught on the door and a small hole appeared - luckily in a convenient lacy spot where no one would notice it! But still…

It’s funny, I think the above-mentioned stress would have lasted for all of 5 minutes, but within those moments I had determined that I was walking down the aisle on my own, that my family hadn’t arrived yet and were going to miss the whole thing, and that my dress was a disaster and looked dreadful on me. Hilarious in retrospect, but not fun in my overstimulated brain at the time!

Of course, my family were there and my brother did come up to walk me down the aisle and my dress looked lovely.

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All trivial stress was forgotten when I found myself walking down the aisle greeted by all my favourite people in the world flanked on either side, and then ahead stood the most handsome man looking like he might spill over with love in his heart.

As I stood facing John I could feel my whole body shaking and knowing me as he does, he steadied my hands in his and I became his wife.

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Rather than go into a blow by blow of our ceremony and reception, I thought I would share our vows that we had kept from one another and the two readings we had chosen for friends Sara Parkinson and Nicole Van Gurp to read.

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 JOHN:

 Today I promise to be your one and only for the rest of my days.

To love, cherish and be grateful that you are in my life.

To encourage and inspire you to grow as a person and chase your dreams.     

To stand with you in times of pain and to celebrate the many joys our life will bring.

Above all else, today I promise to be a husband who is always respectful and honours you with all my love, for one lifetime with you is not enough.  

And last, but not least, I promise to wear taller shoes so you may wear heels.

ME:

I, Solveig Litchfield, choose you John Egen, to be my husband. I

promise to always stand by your side and to be a positive influence on

the wonderful life we have started together with Arabella, Emily and Will.

I know that I will make mistakes, however I will always work to better

myself for us and our children. I will stand by you through life’s ups and

downs and honour you with respect, loyalty and love.

You are kind, honest, funny, generous, smart and incredibly loving, and I

am truly humbled that you have chosen me to be your wife. I promise to

always draw on these qualities and shared values that bind us, through

the good times and bad, and I promise to not only always love you to the

end, but to also provide unconditional love, support and strength as a

family of five so long as we both shall live.

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The Art of Marriage by Wilferd A. Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.

A good marriage must be created.

In the art of marriage the little things are the big things...

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;

the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,

dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

Always by Dorothy Colgan

I will always accept the way you are,

I fell in love with you for the qualities, abilities and the outlook on life that you have,

and I won't try to reshape you in a different image.

I will always respect you, as a person with your own interests, desires and needs,

and to realise that those are sometimes different, but no less important than my own.

I will always share with you, my time, my close attention, and bring joy,

strength and imagination to our relationship.

I will always pledge to keep myself open to you,

to let you see through the window of my personal world,

into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams.

I promise to grow along with you, and to be willing to face change

as we both change in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting.

I will always love you in good times and in bad, with all that I feel inside,

in the only way I know how, completely and forever.

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I hope you have enjoyed my own trip back down nostalgia lane!